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Stepping in God’s Guidance

Stepping in God guidance

Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. Jeremiah 29:12-13

I have a friend who until now never got a good job. Many times he tried to change jobs, as many as he also failed. Disappointment was enveloped his feelings. Then once time she said: “If only God would tell me what I should do, I will not continue to experience failures like this”  The question that comes to my mind is, is it true that God likes to hide in his plan for our lives so that we will be difficult or even impossible to find out? Is it true that only God tells us to obey and follow his plan but objected to tell us what His plan for us?

Of course God does not think like that. If God wants us to walk in His plan, He would want us to know what is in the plan. God is not a covered person who is too busy for us. Rather, God is a Father who loves us, loves His children even as He created his own image and likeness. If so, we need to think again if we had asked Him through our prayers or we even still too lazy to build a relationship with Him?  Or maybe we’ve been praying, but how much faith could accompany us to believe and hear? Perhaps we are still too often tempted by anxiety, fear, worries or other feelings that hinder our sensitivity to His voice. Or maybe we are still too often doing bad things so that God is not pleased upon the behavior of our lives.

David says that The Lord makes firm the steps of the one who delights in him;” (Psalm 37:23) David could say this of course is based on the real evidence through his own life experiences. David firmly says that God ordained the people measures. People like what? In this verse say to those whose lives are pleasing to Him. So, whether we are pleasing to Him or not is an important key to experiencing God’s guidance on every step, each sequence in our lives. He would be happy to participate and guide step by step. One remarkable thing if we not only know that the Lord has prepared not only full peace plan to meet our future with hope. For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. (Jeremiah 29:11) but also participated guide us step by step to fulfill them? That is exactly what God’s ready to be done to every person whose life pleasing to Him.

In the form of God’s presence, we can also see how if on our way we met with difficulties or problems. Walking with God does not mean that life will be entirely smooth with no problems. But the good news is, even when we are in a fallen state, God is still there with us. “though he may stumble, he will not fall, for the Lord upholds him with his hand.” (Psalm 37:24) This means that we do not have to worry in stepping as long as the Lord is with us. David testified that since his youth to old age, he had never seen the righteous forsaken by God. Even the inclusion and blessing from God does not stop only on that person, but also touching his offspring. “I was young and now I am old, yet I have never seen the righteous forsaken or their children begging bread. They are always generous and lend freely; their children will be a blessing”. (Psalm 37:25-26)

God is ready to give wisdom that allows us to be able to see what His plan for us. He has provided all that is needed by us through the talents that have been given since the beginning, and He is ready to guide us in living it gradually. But please remember that life pleasing to God is the key that will allow us to experience it. Moreover we need to know that God is never too busy or happy to ignore us, because the God’s word says: “Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart”. (Jeremiah 29:12-13) See that the Lord is not a closed figure. Instead, he was very open to us and will always be happy to reveal His plan upon each of us. Once again David says: “Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him and he will do this: He will make your righteous reward shine like the dawn, your vindication like the noonday sun.”(Psalm 37:5-6) Goes according to His plan and experience God’s guidance directly in every step, will make our lives find its meaning, just like what God wants for our lives, both today and in the future.

My dear lovely friends, whether we are experiencing a failure that makes us disappointed? If we feel that we are experiencing failure is because God does not tell us what to do? Let us reflect on ourselves if we are living pleasing to God? Think again if we had asked Him through our prayers, or we even still too lazy to build a relationship with Him?  How big we put our faith to God? Or whether we are still too often doing bad things so that God is not pleased upon the behavior of our lives? Let’s we ponder together. Amen

He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart; yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end. (Ecclesiastes 3:11)

Karina

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Four Lessons on Dealing With Disappointment

A friend I care about very much hit me up recently. She had been promised an amazing opportunity, the kind of thing she was aching to do to further herself personally and professionally. And then at the last minute, the opportunity fell through. “I’m trying not to cry at my desk,” she admitted. I knew exactly how she felt. At my old job, there were many days where I had to shed tears in the bathroom, or in the parking lot, crouched down between two cars (before I had a car of my own to cry in). Yes. I’ve been there and I know how it feels, when a lost opportunity just crushes your spirit completely. I’ve learned a few things from experiences like these. Let me share four lessons I’ve learned the hard way, on dealing with disappointment.

Lesson number ONE — don’t let them see you cry. And by “them,” I mean the folks in your professional life. Coworkers, bosses, authority figures, the general public. I’m a very emotional Pisces and when I’m hurt or sad or angry, you can see it in my eyes. I can’t help it. Never have been able to hide my emotions well, but I’ve had to learn how to through the years. I worked in office environments for years before fleeing office life, traditional bosses and coworkers altogether. Having to hide your disappointment at losing an opportunity that could potentially take you away from your drudgery and closer to your dreams, is TOUGH. It will take all your acting skills. But it’s for the best. And don’t let people who have disappointed you know how much they’ve affected your emotions, if you hope to maintain a professional relationship with them. It’s super hard. But truly necessary.

Lesson number TWO — don’t share what might happen. Share what HAS happened. So many times I see folks tweet about a phone call they got, or an e mail promising an amazing possibility. As much as you may want to shout it from the rooftops… trust me when I tell you, it’s probably best to keep your cards close to your chest until the thing’s actually HAPPENING. I learned this the hard way in 2007, when I did my first interview for a major magazine. I told my family and friends back home and word spread and everyone was excited for me….and then that feature never ran. Being asked about that wasn’t fun when I returned. That taught me to protect my possibilities.

I’ve had offers for incredible opportunities come my way throughout my career. Like, crazy stuff. If I told you about some of them, you might not even believe me. I’m talking trips around the world, television appearances, up close access to celebrities, hosting events in amazing locations – crazy crazy stuff that I’ve wanted to shout from the mountain tops as soon as I got the word. I generally don’t talk about this stuff because it isn’t my style, but also, I’ve learned through painful experience that these things don’t always come to fruition. In my experience, it’s best to share these things with no more than five people — and four of those are in my immediate family. And when the awesome thing has happened and I can post pictures and write about what’s happened, I shout it from the rooftops then and bask in the glory.

Lesson number THREE — What is for you, is for YOU. And your day will come.  Know that. OK, so an opportunity fell through. You’re feeling devastated and disappointed. But if you’ve truly worked hard to achieve the thing you were going after or hoping to get, opportunity will come around again. But when it comes around it will be the right thing at the time under the right circumstances with the right people. And you’ll deserve it just as much then. And you might even appreciate the opportunity more, because you know how hard you worked for it, how much you wanted it, and how far you’re gonna knock it out the park because this time is the RIGHT time.

Lesson number FOUR — This is what life is all about, peaks and valleys, joy and sorrow, doing the best you can to achieve your goals and dreams. The most important lesson I’ve learned is to know your worth, and don’t let disappointment defeat you. Allow yourself to feel your feelings, never deny yourself that. But you have to stay positive, and not allow life to make you bitter and angry. Always ask yourself — what lessons can I learn from this experience?