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Between Two Choices

between two choices- Karina's thought

This post was inspired by my blog friend from Indonesia. Few days ago she shared her problem in choosing. She was in the intersection and had to choose which one is best for her future. The point is she was confronted by two choices. Keep doing her current job with the consequences of the assured financial condition or doing another job which according from her heart calling but with the consequences of uncertain future and financial condition. She was very anxious about it.

Life is full of choice? Yes! That is right. Every day and every moment in this life, we are always faced with a choice. This is a problem because sometimes run into difficulties when it comes to choosing from the many offered. Make a choice between two things would be easier if both options are available equally well. But if we had to choose two things which contain the risks, it would be very difficult.

The Lord said to Abram after Lot had parted from him, “Look around from where you are, to the north and south, to the east and west. Genesis 13:14

At first glance, this verse does not seem related to the choosing, but this paragraph is a precept by which we accept God’s answer in choosing and deciding something. “After Lot separated from Abram, the Lord …” This means that before Abram parting with Lot, the Lord has not spoken to him. Why is that? Whereas before the Lord himself who called Abram to leave his country and promised a better country. Abram took a right decision, which is more closely to follow what the Lord says. But when Abram leaves his country and follow the commandments of the LORD, he brought Lot (Lot is a picture of the flesh or lust).

We are called to be followers of Christ and respond with the right decision to follow Him. However, there are few people who follow Christ still bring their flesh and lust. So when faced with the choices in this life, we are forcing the Lord so that He answer what we ask to Him. Whereas the position is still in our flesh, the Lord will not answer what we ask to Him. Why? The above verse clearly says that after Abram parted with Lot, then the Lord spoke, and gave His instructions. So, before asking the Lord for to take a decision, have we left a life of our flesh and lust?

Heart calls or God’s calls? I don’t know exactly what kind of my friend’s heart calls. Follow our heart call is good. But we should consider and think whether it calls according with God’s will or there are elements of the flesh and lust in our hearts calls. Because making a choice which based on lust with choices based on the will of the Lord is the opposite. Because if every time the Lord answered and provide the best choice, if we are still alive within our flesh and lust, surely we would follow the flesh and not on what the Lord says. Calls of the heart which does not in accordance with God’s will would become calls in accordance with our selfishness. The important thing is not which one should we choose, but the most important is when determining a choice, have we actually parted with our flesh?

In determining a choice, we should not be selfish. For the Lord said to wherever or whatever we choose, it’s all going to be given to us and our descendants. “This day I call the heavens and the earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live.”Deuteronomy 30:19. So in choosing, we should also remember our abilities. Appropriate or not with our own existing capabilities. The other thing to remember when making decisions is after looking around (not selfish), we should ask for blessings sufficiently. However, this is often forgotten.

What if we’ve made ​​the choice, apparently God has a better choice than what we have chosen?  Let we take a look a while to Paul’s story.  In the decision making process Paul can still be missed (not in the context of good or evil). In taking the decision, Paul has looked around and makes a choice to go preach the gospel to Asia. But there he was rejected, and then go to Galatia, Phrygia, and Misia, but even there he was rejected. The decisions taken by Paul is correct (because he went to preach), but Lord knows there is a right place for Paul, which is in Macedonia. That is why the Lord directs Paul to Macedonia. (Acts 16: 6-10)

We need to know that the Lord will never make us regret, because God has many ways to change or improve things, including our decision that not appropriate for us. So do not be afraid to make decisions when we are already separated by “Lot”. Even if one day we make decisions that were not appropriate, the Lord will lead us to the better choice.

If the choices we make are not based on flesh, aim to glorify God, are not rely on our own strength and wisdom, and according to God’s will, then what we choose or decide it will give you satisfaction. And if it is not a perfect choice, Our Lord will make it perfect for us, as He did to Paul. Amen.

Karina

I dedicate this post to my sister in Christ Sella Irene. http://sellairene.wordpress.com

Related article: Never A Blind Fate by KrizSummer

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Questions to Ask Yourself Everyday.

Today, after lunch I should have give a building character training to the junior employees at my company. I would like to share one of training material to all bloggers. Hopefully it can be useful.

Many times what people need is not a brilliant mind that speaks. But they only need a special heart that listens. Giving up is easy. Perhaps this is the reason why most people give up very soon. But when your dreams are far away and your life is full of obstacles, it really doesn’t matter what the challenge is. Your faith on yourself will get you through it. What you do everyday matters more than what you do once in a while.

Ask these questions everyday to find out your inner qualities and make yourself a better you. Because it’s much more valuable to criticize yourself than criticizing others. Because you gain nothing by criticizing their imperfections. Your life is what you make it. Every day is a new day to try again. So start asking yourself these questions everyday and discover the real YOU.

1. Am I Taking the Right Decision?

It‘s very important to take the right decision at the right time. But it is more important to understand the right time to take a decision and implement it. So it’s always a good idea to ask yourself if you are taking the right decision. Because your decision making abilities controls more than fifty percent of your success in life..
So whenever you make an important decision, at first ask yourself if it gets you closer to your goals or farther away. If the answer is closer, pull the trigger. If it’s not, make a different choice. Remember, conscious decision making is a critical step in making your dreams a reality.

2. What have I Learn Till Now?

Behind every negative thing, there are positive things to learn. You can learn something every day if you pay attention. Learn from every mistake and be the best you can be. Learn from your past to live in the present and create your future. Forget what hurt you. But never forget what it has taught you. Learn as much as you can. Because your world will be boring if you don’t learn anything.

Every mistake has something new to learn about. People who never made a mistake in life has never really tried to something new. So they don’t get the opportunity to learn from their mistakes. Remember we can never go back and change what has already been said or done. But we can always learn the lesson to make things better next time.

3. What are My Fears?

Courage is not the absence of fear. But it is the judgment that something else is more important than fear. Remember, fear is the ultimate self-imposed illusion. Nothing in life is to be afraid of, but to be understood. If you don’t understand the reason of your fear, you can never understand how to get rid of it.

Don’t let your fear control your life. Look deep into yourself to discover the reasons of your fear. The only difference between your fear and your excitement is your attitude about it. It’s better to face danger once than to always be in fear. Miracles happen when you learn to give more energy to your dreams than to your fears . 

 4. Where can I Find Inspiration?

Your best inspiration is YOU. Make yourself someone you will be proud of. The darkest night is often the bridge to the brightest tomorrows. Ask yourself what inspires you and learn from it. Perhaps the best question you can ask yourself is “What is the most valuable use of my time, right now?”

The way you choose to live your life is what decides how your life will be. Stop talking about your problems and start talking about your joys. Then you will have a more entertaining and interesting life. You don’t have to better than everybody else. You should just try to be better than you ever thought you could be.

5. How can I Improve Myself?

There is no challenge more challenging than a challenge to improve yourself. You can improve yourself everyday of your life. Your future depends on what you do today. Utilize your time in the most valuable way. Improve yourself and be the best person you can be. Don’t let your future become a constant battle.

Realize your full potential by focusing on improving yourself. Take care of your mind and the way it plays with you. Never get tired of doing little things for yourself. Because sometimes those little things occupy the biggest part of your life.

6, What Makes Me Proud?

Everyone who got where he is today had to begin where he was. So don’t let your life discourage you. Be proud of who you are and what you are today. This is only what you have got and this is only what you can improve. Respect yourself enough to know you deserve the very best. Because when you love yourself, things fall easily into place. 

 Not everyone you love is going to love you back. So it’s much better to love yourself. You should be yourself. Because nobody else is better qualified. You are your best inspiration and you are the only person who has the best capability to make yourself feel proud.

Nobody is going to love you, if you don’t love yourself. Don’t try to change yourself to impress others. Because you never know who will love you for who you are. Let the world know you as you are, not as you think you should be. Be proud of yourself and what you have every day.

7. What is My Greatest Challenge?

Challenges are what make your life more interesting. Without any challenge, your life will be boring. The greatest challenge in life is discovering who you are. Asking this question everyday will make you realize how interesting your life is and you have the ability to make it more interesting.

Every challenge makes you stronger. Every challenge makes you realize your inner strength. You need to realize that you have the power to change your life. You can do it by finding out your passion and discovering your greatest challenge in life.

Your greatest challenge in life is your goal. Don’t let your life change your goals. But change your life by achieving your goals. If you want to live a happy and interesting life, you must tie it to a goal. Whatever your goal, you can get there if you’re willing to work.

Material summarized from : The Ultimate Life  Guide, http://uniquelifeguide.com