“One behalf of the company and personally I apologize for what we have done to you. We know and totally realize that we have done disservice you not only materially but rather to morally. We will officially make a press conference to clarify our statement and we are ready to accept any legal consequences from you and your company.”

My dear readers, first of all I want to say thank you for your support and prayer of my problem that I have shared some time ago. I am grateful God not only strengthen me in facing the problem but amazingly He solved my problem. After quite long investigation process, the government finally could find no charge at all. All of the business processes that our company did clearly did not infringe the clauses of the law.The authorities that conduct an investigation didn’t find any indication I did bribe to the some government officer in order to won the project tender. The statement above was from one of VIP of the company that became our competitor. With some others he came to my office to apologize because they have slandered me. Then I said: “I am grateful to God and thank you for willing to meet me personally. I really appreciate it.  I think this problem has been finished and you don’t need to make a press conference to clarify your statement.With the great honor happily I accept your apology. I hope and pray that in the future we could work together to make a better achievement”

After that moment, one of my staff come to me and said, “How you could easily forgive them and as if you already forget all that they have done to us?  Surprisingly, you even hope in the future could be working with them! Did you forget we’ve got moral losses?”

Beloved readers, this is about forgiveness. I really realize that sometimes we are very difficult to forgive those who have done wrong to us. To be honest, it’s not easy to forgive someone who already slandered and tried to spoil my reputation without any evidence at all. There was a struggle in my heart.

My post this time will be quite long. Sister Sella wrote this beautifully and completely detailed. I hope you will be patient read this post.


the power of forgiveness

Forgiveness is a sacrifice that containing a great grace of liberation.

Forgiveness could reconnect a broken rope of love, could mend a broken relationship, even able to liberate someone from death penalty.

We all know that forgive is a noble nature. Even more as Christ follower we could understand that forgiving is deign and pleasing God. God commanded to us to not repay evil for evil, love our enemies, and forgive someone who persecutes us, even up to seventy times seven (Matthew 18:21-22). Just because we know to forgive are God’s command and will, then whether we could easily to do that thing? Not at all!

I am so blessed after read Karina’s post “They Could Find No Charge”. When she was slandered and had to undergo investigations for an accusation that she never did, I really know indeed Karina has a power and chance to take revenge and sue them back for justice. But the thing that inspired me is that she did not use her power, but chose to forgive and surrender everything to God. It was the same as someone who intentionally did not use his hands to hit back when was hitting and it wasn’t easy.

Struggle in releasing forgiveness is real in everyday life. Nobody is immune to anger, disappointment, and hurt. Deliberately or not, sometime someone hurt and harm us. Though many people knows that forgiveness is a necessary but still isn’t easy to do. That is why forgiveness is so expensive.  No one could do it easily unless they enabled by the power beyond themselves: LOVE!



Our Father sacrificed His begotten Son to die for us. Why God was willing and able to do it? Because He is love! God isn’t only has love, but God is love itself! We will not be able to forgive if love (God) doesn’t control our lives, because true forgiveness always based and driven by love.

And above all things have fervent love for one another, for “love will cover a multitude of sins.” (1 Peter 4:8 NKJV)

Hatred stirs up strife, But love covers all sins. (Proverbs 10:12 NKJV)

Forgiving is one of the real form of God’s love. Holy Spirit has been poured out God’s love in our heart. As just as we accept the grace of forgiveness from God, we must give compassion and mercy to those who have wronged us



For the sake of us The Lord Jesus left Heaven where He reigns as King of kings with all His greatness. He came down to the world as a servant. Instead of prostration and honor that’s always devoted to the Angel, He accepts humiliation and abuse from those who crucified Him. Instead of Glory and mightiness, He was being an object of spectacle and stained. God’s word says that for a little while made lower than the angel (Hebrews 2:9).  He was willing to bear all it for the sake of atoned our sins. That is humility.

Without humility we will not be able to forgive. Humility means not hold our position and also don’t require others to recognize “who” we are. A humble man doesn’t ask to being respected and appreciated instead putting others than himself. In Matthew 11:29 Jesus said, “…..learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart …..”.  Let’s learn from the Lord Jesus who humbled himself to give forgiveness for us. Let us also humbles ourselves to forgive our neighbor.



There is a story in Matthew 18:21-35. There was a servant who should be punished because he cannot pay off the debt of 10 thousand talents. By the mercy of the king he was released and the debts abolished. After his release, he met his friend who was unable to pay debts amounting to 100 denarii to him. His friend begged him for mercy but he just entering his friend to the prison.

The servant had received forgiveness of big debt that will never be able to repay, but he would not give forgiveness to his friend who owed him the amount of debt is much smaller than his debt to the king. Finally the king wrathful and punish him until he is able to pay off the entire debt.

Forgiving is not only frees people from the “debt”, but to forgive also means freeing ourselves. Although we have been redeemed from sin and death, but us always need forgiveness from God because in everyday life we can still fall into the sin. If we want to be forgiven by God, we must be willing to forgive our neighbor.



In Mark 11:20-26 Jesus teach His disciples  about prayer. We have power to move the mountain if we believe (Verse 24). But there is an important thing to do before praying: “And whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him, that your Father in heaven may also forgive you your trespasses. But if you do not forgive, neither will your Father in heaven forgive your trespasses.” (Verse 25-26)

Hatred, anger, resentment, bitterness, and all the negative feelings that we save is a sin. Sin is a barrier the answer of prayer! Therefore, God wants us to forgive. Not merely for the sake of those who have wronged us, but in fact for the sake of ourselves! We will not be able to worship God and have firm faith if we keep the hatred or anger to someone, because only those who are clean and pure in heart shall see God (Psalms 24:3-4 and Matthew 11:8).

Not willing to forgive is the same as putting a barrier between us and God, which means blocking the answers of prayer that we expect. If we expect a miracle from God, we must forgive.



“But he who hates his brother is in darkness and walks in darkness, and does not know where he is going, because the darkness has blinded his eyes.” (1 John 2:11 NKJV) 

Hatred is like the darkness that blinding our spiritual eyes. Hatred makes us couldn’t hear God’s voice and couldn’t catch His word. It is the meaning with placing us in the darkness because we don’t even know our direction. Release forgiveness as God commanded to us so our spiritual eyes will be open again because God’s word is the light that shines our path.



Several years ago at the office where I work there was an incident the microwave burned due to the negligence of someone. We cannot know and find out who did it because the position of pantry not covered by CCTV. A few months later the leader rebuked me because someone said that I am the culprit. Which made me disappointed was, someone who slandered me is a trusted worship leader. Actually I want to meet her and confront the wrong accusation but for the some reason my leader didn’t allow me to do it. After the accident, it was so hard for me to enjoy the God’s presence when she led the praise and worship. Then I realized if I always in that bad situation I will lose. I cannot pray, I could not be joyful, and always filled with hatred to her. Finally I decided to forgive and let what she did to me go! May God knows I didn’t do thing that accused by her. After that, I can pray again and even made a friendship with her without demanding any explanation.

You shall not take vengeance, nor bear any grudge against the children of your people, but you shall love your neighbor as yourself: I am the Lord. (Leviticus 19:18 NKJV)

Forgiveness needs our willingness to relinquish the right.  Relinquish the rights to take vengeance, the right to sue a justice, the right to self-defense, and so on. And it all isn’t so easy to do just because involves our ego. However, once we are willing to do it, in fact we are allowing God to scrape the flesh and bring us to the higher spiritual maturity level.



As human being it is normal if we cannot easily accept when harmed or hurt in any form. We want to take revenge so they feel what we feel. But forgive oblige us to let “the feeling” go. Many of us cannot forgive because not willing to liberate our enemies from our “punishment”. But in fact, what happened is opposite! When we don’t want to forgive, indeed we ourselves will suffer. Our mind and feeling tempestuous even often we will get health problems, while those who we hate maybe just fine and probably not even aware of his mistake.

On one side forgive seemed to benefit other people and harm us. But on the other hand, real forgiveness brings relief, peace and joy for us. With forgive then we are freed from the burden and the shackles of hatred, anger, disappointment, bitterness, resentment, and emotional wounds. Forgiving bring relief to our hearts and minds so that we can rejoice again. Even in the many testimonies I heard, forgiveness brings miraculous physical healing!



If someone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen, how can he love God whom he has not seen? (1 John 4:20 NKJV)

We often say that we love God, but at the same time we hate our brethren. The Word of God insists that we cannot love God if in our hearts there is hatred. In other words, if we truly love God, then we will not stay in hatred. We must be willing to forgive and even with the power of God we can love our enemies.



Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord. (Romans 12:19 NKJV)

God is righteous and His is our protector. Forgiving means to recognize God’s power that able to defend us. Forgiving means believe that God will act and we feel safe in His protection. But how can we submit to Him if we don’t know Him? Therefore we must build the altar of prayer every day and have intimate fellowship with the Holy Spirit. Keep reading the God’s word so our faith will be grow. Without faith it’s impossible we could surrender to Him. Our ability to forgive will go hand in hand with spiritual maturity and growth of our faith. Conversely, if we refuse to forgive our spiritual growth and faith will be hampered.



There are no exceptions in forgiveness. No matter big or small case, ordinary anger or deep wounds, minor crimes or big betrayal: our position and our status as children of God oblige us to be willing to forgive.

Forgiving is God’s character. If God’s spirit within us so we also definitely have heart that willing to forgive. Not instantly and automatically because forgiveness is about heart and feeling. Everyone needs different time to could overcome it. It is all about how we could let our heart to be processed by God

I must admit that sometimes we couldn’t accept why people are hurt and harm us as if his life was fine while we have to suffer because of his actions. But in forgiveness, God does not deal with other people’s hearts. God was dealing with our hearts. Hearts of others is their own affairs with God.

“I, the Lord, probe into people’s minds. I examine people’s hearts. I deal with each person according to how he has behaved. I give them what they deserve based on what they have done.” (Jeremiah 17:10 NET)

Whatever the case, who are guilty, those who were hurt, forgiveness is a private matter of each person with God.



God is not God who gave the command to His children without giving the ability to carry out His orders. If God commands us to forgive means that He has provided everything we need to do. God give us strength, patience, joy, comfort, peace, rescue and defense of His perfect. There is a blessing of forgiveness.

Forgiving isn’t easy but isn’t impossible.  The key is we must be willing to cooperate with God because nothing impossible before God and for all those who believe in Him. God is love and God’s love is never fails. We must live in His love and filled with His love by always doing His Word.

“But whoever keeps His word, truly the love of God is perfected in him. By this we know that we are in Him.” (1 John 2:5 (NKJV) 

Right now, please allow me to encourage all of you to make commitment to always do God’s word so God’s power of love will work in us and finally we will be able to forgive.

Let us always open our hearts and allow the Holy Spirit to correct, form, and turn us into a person who meek and obedient. Forgiving is painful for our flesh, but if we are willing to obey and surrender then we will become more beautiful and like Christ, our Redeemer.

Forgiving is a process that takes time and sacrifice. But at the end of painful process, we are the one who will reap the results, receive blessings, and enjoy life in His glory.




By: Sella Irene – Beautiful Words

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49 thoughts on “THE POWER OF FORGIVENESS (Guest Post)

  1. Thank you for the update, Karina! The resolution of your plight shows the power of prayer and God’s blessings.

    All being well, the press conference goes ahead. Other parties probably need to hear a public statement.

  2. This is a very good post, Karina. There are several important points about forgiveness, and to show this kind of love to others is so important! For as we forgive, we will be forgiven ourselves.

    Thank you for the visit and I hope you will come back…

    Sunshine 🙂

    • Dear, sunshine
      Thank you very much for reading and commenting my post 🙂 Sister Sella, the author is very good writer. I encourage you to visit and follow her blog as well. I love your word: For as we forgive, we will be forgiven ourselves. It is so true 🙂 Thank you and God bless..

      • And thank you for the sweet reply, Karina! It is nice to know you. Please stop by anytime as I am trying to build up this website. I will also stop in at your blog as often as I can.

        It was nice of you to recommend your friend’s blog as well! We’ll be talking again soon I hope.

        Sunshine 🙂

  3. Sister Karina, so happy to hear the matter was settled. Your forgiveness allows to many blessings to flow to you and others. God hears and answers prayers. Sister Sella’s post on forgiveness covers so much. Thank you for showing Christ to others in the midst of the battle! Abundant blessings to you!

    • Hello, brother. .
      Thank you very much for the support and prayer. I do agree with you, brother. Sister Sella is great author and one of my favorite author 🙂 May God bless you abundantly too, brother 🙂

  4. Reblogged this on Lighting the Lamp and commented:
    A beautiful post from two sisters in Christ, Karina Lam and Sella. It is so counter-intuitive to forgive someone who has done you wrong, and yet isn’t that what the Father, Christ and the Holy Ghost did for us? They forgave us while we were yet sinners and offered us eternal life if we repent. This is such a critical theological point that I wanted to reblog this for others to share.

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  6. There are no losers, if you are a believer in Christ and have the faith, love and wisdom to pray for an enemy same as you pray for yourself.

    Great message and I know you are not a loser. I am pleased and happy for the outcome of your problem.

    Regards and goodwill blogging.

    • Dear, brother Rudy.
      First of all I am sorry for the late response of your comment. Thank you very much for your wonderful comment. My problem done well just because of God’s powerful hand help to went through the problem. Once again I am sorry and God bless.

      • Do not be concerned at all about a personal response. You are an inspiration to I know you have limited time being a business leader, wife, mother, friend. A simple ‘like’ would be a great compliment to me if I comment on your inspirational blog.

        Regards and goodwill blogging.

  7. Thank you Karina for sharing Sella’s Message and yes it’s very True we are to forgive because holding onto bitterness and resentment is like mixing poison for the person who hurt us but drinking it our-self, it eats us away all the goodness like Cancer does, we also remember that hurt people hurt people unless they are healed.

    But holding our hurt in is no good either, we need to resolve it and that may mean talking about it with those we Trust, it is better than letting it build up till we need Medical help.

    I don’t hate anyone even those who have hurt me but I do hate what they do that hurts me and others too but if those who have hurt us were to need my help I would respond without hesitation and I always leave a door open so they can.

    But how do we keep forgiving those who keep hurting us, we can’t in the Carnal flesh, it must be put to death, (Romans 8 :12-15- Romans6 -Colossians 3:4-6 -Galatians 5:24 -26) as we Aim to be Perfected in Love, (Matthew 5:48 – Hebrews 6:1-Philippians 3:14-16 -2Timothy 3:17-1John 4:16-19- 1John 2:4-6- 2Corinthians 13:11) we choose to keep Loving even our enemies and The Holy Spirit empowers us so we can, but as I shared before that does not mean we accept the wrong they do and say, No Jesus got the whip out and told them why they were very wrong and not in a Saccharine sweet way and Paul also did the same with the Childish Christians and those who continues to cause division through fleshy actions and so hurt others but we still continue to Love, Jesus died while we were still sinners, He Loved us so much.

    Below is a link about my need to forgive, was it easy, No but I had help.

    Rescued –

    Christian Love in our Unity with Christ Jesus – Anne.

    • Dear, sister Anne
      as always thank you very much for your great message on my post. Yes I have read the post about your story. To be honest, I am so inspired read your post especially when we talk about forgiveness. Also thank you for the bible verses. Each comment of you always bring something to ponder 🙂 once again thank for your loving kindness to always support my blog by your great comment. God bless, sis.

  8. Thank you for sharing Sella’s post on forgiveness. It was so impactful!
    And I am happy God has vindicated you. That is so amazing and it confirms God is a God who answers prayer!
    The way you forgave your competitiors so easily is inspiring.
    I can only imagine how hard it was but you were being obedient to God.
    Job came to mind as I read your testimony. After all the accusations Job faced from his friends he forgave them too.

    “So Eliphaz the Temanite and Bildad the Shuhite and Zophar the Naamathite went, and did according as the Lord commanded them: the Lord also accepted Job.
    And the Lord turned the captivity of Job, when he prayed for his friends: also the Lord gave Job twice as much as he had before. ”
    Job 42:9, 10

    It’s only after Job forgave that God turned his captivity around. Job’s story would have been much different if he stayed hard hearted and unforgiving.

    As you were obedient to God, He was and is pleased. How that manifests from this moment on, only He knows.
    You won a great battle by God’s strength and help.
    All praise to God…..!


    • Dear, brother Rolain
      First, I am sorry for the slow response of your comment. Just got a hectic situation here.. Thank you very much for the such great comment, brother. Yes Job’s story inspired me too in forgiving. Once again thank you so much, brother 🙂 have a wonderful weekend. God bless.

  9. Praise the Lord! He is so faithful to vindicate His children when others attack them! Your act of forgiveness is going to open up the door for increase in your company and big blessings in your life. The devil thought he could hurt you, but he lost! I’m so proud of you and happy for you!

    • Dear, sister Christa
      Thank you for your lovely comment. Also thank you very much for the prayer. Indeed God is so faithful to all His children who always rely on His strength and obey to His command 🙂 once again thank you so much, sis 🙂 God bless.

  10. Thank you, Sisters, for these posts about forgiveness. This is a difficult subject for me. Some are easier to forgive than others. Yet I know and accept that the greatest benefit comes to me when I forgive individuals who have harmed or slandered me intentionally, even though I don’t always know who they are. Jesus’ prayer on the cross helps me let go of some of the anguish. Sometimes I’m not ready to forgive–yet I can turn to God and pray the prayer Jesus prayed: “Father, (You) forgive them, for they know not what they do.”

    • Dear, sister Elouise
      You are much welcome 🙂 I thank you for your lovely comment on my guest post. Yes Jesus is our role model in forgiveness. only by His strength and wisdom I could handle this hard times. Once again thank you, sis. God bless.

  11. There’s a large knot within both our physical and spiritual cores that is loosened and even cut away with forgiveness– despite how much we might want to allow our anger to dominate. I’m so happy for your being able to weather this, Karina.

    • Hello, there
      Thank yoi very much for such a great thought on my guest post 🙂 Only by God’s strength and wisdom I could went through all of hard situation. Once again thank you very much and God bless.

  12. Wonderful post Karina! I am so glad that stressful situation is behind you.
    God enables us to forgive not to benefit the person who wronged us but to keep us from beoming corrupted. We don’t have to mandate someone pay for what they did. God’s restoration is far greater than anything we could arrange on our on. I’m sure your faith was refined in this situation and you will go forward stronger and wiser. B Blessed my sister!

    • Hello, sister Lilka
      Thank you very much for your wonderful comment to my post 🙂 I am grateful to God He gives me strength and wisdom to go through the hard time in my life and He always stand firm beside me:) once again thank you very much, sis 🙂 God bless.

  13. This is a well done guest post! Your writing partners are very good indeed. Hope you are doing well, sis, and hope to see another post from you soon.

    Enjoy your evening and day tomorrow…

    Steve 🙂

  14. Forgiveness has a powerful impact, both on the donor and recipient. Some injuries are so profound, we cannot find it within ourselves to forgive. But forgiveness has a spiritual element. God enables us to do we cannot in our human strength alone manage. Forgiveness may not be accomplished at a single sitting. Some wounds have to be drained, again and again. We must take our pain to the Lord, for only He can alleviate it. ❤

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