A few weeks ago, one of my friends sent me an email and shares her relationship problem. She was broken heart. Their love affair that has lasted more than 3 years has ended. I feel very sorry about her problem and I tried to encourage him to stay strong and resilient. I said:” your love story this time might have ended up and feel hurt but life does not end just because of the love problems. God has a beautiful plan behind your problem”
One of the most painful emotional experiences is that of a “broken heart” whether it is from a severed relationship or the death of a loved one. Everyone has to deal with a broken heart at some point in life because we live in a fallen world, and, as a result, we are constantly faced with shattered dreams, unexpected losses, and hurting relationships.
Many times, songwriters have tried to capture the heart-wrenching feelings that arise from these circumstances with lyrics like, “How I am supposed to live without you when all I’ve been living for is gone?” and “I will never get over you getting over me;” as well as “You’ve lost that loving feeling.” Yet, these emotions are not articulated as clearly as we often wish they were. Often the pain is so deep and so excruciating that we tend to repress and deny the anguish rather than handle it properly.
But God gives hope to all those who suffer from a broken heart by promising both His abiding presence and His overflowing peace. Psalm 34:18 says that the Lord “is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” In John 14:27 Jesus states, “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.”
Right now God can use us even in your heartache. In II Corinthians 1:3-4 Paul writes, “Praise be to God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God.” Sometimes the very reason pain has been allowed into our lives is so that we can be more effective in our ministry to others.
Consider this: Can she who has never felt rejection and isolation understand the plight of a woman who battles depression and loneliness? Can he who has never lost a loved one empathize with a man who has just lost his father? Can she who has never known the pain of unrequited love minister to the teenager whose love interest has chosen someone else for a prom date?
God’s purposes in allowing pain in our lives are multi-faceted. Not only does He teach us about His love and faithfulness amidst our times of sorrow, but after our grieving has ended, He gives us strength to offer words of edification to others who are experiencing similar trials. I Peter 5:9 says, “Resist him, standing firm in the faith, because you know that the family of believers throughout the world is undergoing the same kind of sufferings.”
Thus, we serve as both a support base and a hope for those who are walking through difficult situations proving that with God’s help even seemingly insurmountable obstacles can be overcome.
If we are struggling with emotional pain, take comfort in the fact that God has our situation as well as we are in the palm of His hands. He will not let us go, and He will not let us down. A final word of hope can be found in I Peter 5:10, And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast. Take heart, the pain we experience today may be your platform for ministry tomorrow.
God is ever near to those Who have a broken heart
Through the loss of someone dear That tears your world apart
It seems so overwhelming The grief, too much to bear,
But know that God is with you, He loves you and He cares. (MS.Lowndes)
I dedicated this post to my best friend Anggie Chang in Thailand.
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