Archive | May 28, 2013

Rain

rainsOne rainy afternoon I was driving along one of the main streets of town, taking those extra precautions necessary when the roads are wet and slick. Suddenly, my daughter, Aspen, spoke up from her relaxed position in her seat. “Dad, I’m thinking of something.”

This announcement usually meant she had been pondering some fact for a while, and was now ready to expound all that her six-year-old mind had discovered. I was eager to hear.

“What are you thinking?” I asked.

“The rain!;” she began, “is like sin, and the windshield wipers are like God wiping our sins away.”

After the chill bumps raced up my arms I was able to respond. “That’s really good, Aspen.”

Then my curiosity broke in. How far would this little girl take this revelation? So I asked… “Do you notice how the rain keeps on coming? What does that tell you?”

Aspen didn’t hesitate one moment with her answer: “We keep on sinning, and God just keeps on forgiving us.” I will always remember this whenever I turn my wipers on.

In order to see the rainbow, you must first endure some rain.

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Know where you’re going in life

 

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A boat docked in a tiny Mexican fishing village.

A tourist complimented the local fishermen on the quality of their fish and askedhow long it took him to catch them.

“Not very long.” they answered in unison.
“Why didn’t you stay out longer and catch more?”

The fishermen explained that their small catches were
sufficient to meet their needs and those of their families.

 

“But what do you do with the rest of your time?”

“We sleep late, fish a little, play with our children,
and take siestas with our wives.
In the evenings, we go into the village to see our friends,
have a few drinks, play the guitar, and sing a few songs.

We have a full life.”

The tourist interrupted,

“I have an MBA from Harvard and I can help you!
You should start by fishing longer every day.
You can then sell the extra fish you catch.
With the extra revenue, you can buy a bigger boat.”

“And after that?”

“With the extra money the larger boat will bring,
you can buy a second one and a third one
and so on until you have an entire fleet of trawlers.
Instead of selling your fish to a middle man,
you can then negotiate directly with the processing plants
and maybe even open your own plant.

You can then leave this little village and move to Mexico City ,
Los Angeles , or even New York City !

From there you can direct your huge new enterprise.”

“How long would that take?”

“Twenty, perhaps twenty-five years.” replied the tourist.

“And after that?”

“Afterwards? Well my friend, that’s when it gets really interesting, “
answered the tourist, laughing. “When your business gets really big,
you can start buying and selling stocks and make millions!”

“Millions? Really? And after that?” asked the fishermen.

“After that you’ll be able to retire,
live in a tiny village near the coast,
sleep late, play with your children,
catch a few fish, take a siesta with your wife
and spend your evenings drinking and enjoying your friends.”

“ That’s what I am doing now” Replied the fisherman

Know where you’re going in life…. you may already be there!!

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Inseparable friends

Two inseparable friends, Sam and Jason, met with an accident on their way to Boston City. The following morning, Jason woke up blind and Sam was still unconscious. Dr. Berkeley was standing at his bedside looking at his health chart and medications with a thoughtful expression on his face. When he saw Sam awake, he beamed at him and asked.” How are you feeling today Sam?” Sam tried to put up a brave face and smiled back saying, “Absolutely wonderful Doctor. I am very grateful for all that you have done for me. “Dr Berkeley was moved at Sam’s deed. All that he could say was, “You are a very brave man Sam and God will make it up to you in one way or another”. While he was moving on to the next patient, Sam called back at him almost pleading, “Promise me you won’t tell Jason anything”.

“You know I won’t do that. Trust me.” and walked away.”Thank you “whispered Sam. He smiled and looked up in prayer ” I hope I live up to your ideas…please give me the strength to be able to go through this…Amen”

Months later when Jason had recuperated considerably, he stopped hanging around with Sam. He felt discouraged and embarrassed to spend time with a disabled person like Sam.

Sam was lonely and disheartened, since he didn’t have anybody else other than Jason to count on. Things went from bad to worse. And one day Sam died in despair. When Jason was called on his burial, he found a letter waiting for him. Dr Berkeley gave it to him with an expressionless face and said” This is for you Jason. Sam had asked me to give it to you when he was gone”.

In the letter he had said: “Dear Jason, I have kept my promise in the end to lend you my eyes if anything had happened to them. Now there is nothing more that I can ask from God, than the fact that will see the world through my eyes. You will always be my best friend……..Sam”.

When he had finished reading Dr. Berkeley said ” I had promised Sam to keep his sacrifice he made a secret from you. But now I wish I didn’t stick it Because I don’t think It was worthy it” .

All that was left for Jason while he stood there was tears of regret and memories of Sam for the rest of his life.

Lesson of the story: No matter what If we make a friend, we should stick by him till the end. Life is meaningless without a friend.

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The Old Professor

The first day of school our professor introduced himself and challenged us to get to know someone we didn’t already know. I stood up to look around when a gentle hand touched my shoulder. I turned around to find a wrinkled, little old lady beaming up at me with a smile that that lit up her entire being.


She said, “Hi, handsome. My name is Rose. I’m eighty-seven years old. Can I give you a hug?” I laughed and enthusiastically responded, “Of course you may!” and she gave me a giant squeeze.
“Why are you in college at such a young, innocent age?” I asked.
She jokingly replied, “I’m here to meet a rich husband, get married, have a couple of children, and then retire and travel.”
“No seriously,” I asked. I was curious what may have motivated her to be taking on this challenge at her age.
“I always dreamed of having a college education and now I’m getting one!” she told me.
After class we walked to the student union building and share a chocolate milkshake. We became instant friends. Every day for the next three months we would leave class together and talk nonstop. I was always mesmerized listening to this “time machine” as she shared her wisdom and experience with me.


Over the course of the year, Rose became a campus icon and she easily made friends wherever she went. She loved to dress up and she reveled in the attention bestowed upon her from the other students. She was living it up.
At the end of the semester we invited Rose to speak at our football banquet. I’ll never forget what she taught us. She was introduced and stepped up to the podium. As she began to deliver her prepared speech, she dropped her three by five cards on the floor. Frustrated and a little embarrassed she leaned into the microphone and simply said, “I’m sorry I’m so jittery. I gave up beer for Lent and this whiskey is killing me! I’ll never get my speech back in order so let me just tell you what I know.”


As we laughed she cleared her throat and began: “We do not stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing. There are only four secrets to staying young, being happy, and achieving success. “You have to laugh and find humor every day. You’ve got to have a dream. When you lose your dreams, you die. We have so many people walking around who are dean and don’t even know it!”
“There is a huge difference between growing older and growing up. If you are nineteen years old and lie in bed for one full year and don’t do one productive thing, you will turn twenty years old. If I am eighty-seven years old and stay in bed for a year and never do anything I will turn eighty-eight. Anybody can grow older. That doesn’t take any talent or ability. The idea is to grow up by always finding the opportunity in change.”
“Have no regrets. The elderly usually don’t have regrets for what we did, but rather for things we did not do. The only people who fear death are those with regrets.”


She concluded her speech by courageously singing The Rose. She challenged each of us to study the lyrics and live them out in our daily lives. At the years end Rose finished the college degree she had begun all those years ago.
One week after graduation Rose died peacefully in her sleep.
Over two thousand college students attended her funeral in tribute to the wonderful woman who taught by example that it’s never too late to be all you can possibly be.

Remember, GROWING OLDER IS MANDATORY, GROWING UP IS OPTIONAL.

 Messages in this story: –

You are never to old to learn,
– always pursue your dreams, you are never to old to set your goals and accomplish your dreams,
– laugh and find humor in everyday,
– find opportunities in change,especially in today’s world where change is moving at a fast pace, don’t let change overwhelm you, let change help you find opportunities you may have never seen!
– have no regrets – her story is so true, so many people use words such as “if only”, “I wish”, “I can’t”, etc.

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Stop Comparing Yourself

apples-to-orangesBack somewhere in the mid-2000′s, I was a bridesmaid in a friend’s wedding. The dress that we collectively chose was rather nice– it was midnight blue and sleeveless and came with a rather lovely wrap.

(This was long before I had embraced the beauty of sleevelessness, but I digress.) The bride had hired a makeup artist and hair stylist to work on all of the bridesmaids, and so with a combo of a really pretty dress and wonderful hair and makeup, I was feeling pretty good about myself.

That is, until, I saw all the other bridesmaids (who were all much thinner than me), and I found myself pulled into the deep vortex of comparing myself to them.

Suddenly, I didn’t feel so good about how I looked. To my eyes, the dress fit all of them better and looked better on all of them. Weddings are really kind of a performance, and I felt like me, standing in a long line among these women, would be the focus of negative attention.

Maybe you’ve done this kind of thing before too, but I found myself trying to find items of comparison where I could win out. Basically, I would think, well, that one has no cleavage or that one’s hair looks messed up.

Which, as you can imagine, didn’t really help me feel better.

Why Comparing Yourself To Others Is Always A Bad Idea, And Not For The Reasons You Think

Take a moment to think of a time when you compared yourself to another person where you were the one on the losing side.

Maybe you were at a meeting for work, or a party, or just walking down the street. Maybe you were comparing yourself physically or maybe you were comparing intellects, speaking ability, whatever.

Think of that moment, and take a minute to notice how it feels in your body.

It doesn’t feel very good right?

Now, this may blow your mind. Take a moment now to think of a time where you compared yourself to someone else, and you came out on top. Take a moment to feel how that feels in your body.

Maybe it feels a little better, or maybe not at all.

That’s because viewing life as a competition, where you have to constantly be better at whatever — how you look, how you parent, how you write, whatever — doesn’t feel very good.

In essence, comparing yourself to others is always a losing game.

How to Stop Comparing and Start Enjoying Exactly What You’ve Got

Mindset Shift #1: Everything Is Apples And Oranges

Seriously, everything in life is apples and oranges. Or apples and radio stations and hula hoops and oranges.

Basically, we’re all made up of hundreds and thousands of qualities, talents, flaws, things we’re good at, things we’re bad at, bad hair days, problems, physical ailments, etc.

And most of those are things go unseen all the time. Just like you wouldn’t want someone to make assumptions about you, it’s time to stop making assumptions about others.

In reality, you really can’t compare yourself to anyone properly because you’ll never know the totality of their experience.

Mindset Shift #2: It’s Time to Give Up the Scarcity Model

The real reason that you find it necessary to compare yourself to others is that you’ve fallen under the spell that says that good things are always scarce.

The scarcity model says that if the person that you’re comparing yourself to is (arguably) prettier than you, then that person has grabbed up too much of that thing called pretty and now there’s less for you.

Same thing goes for fame or money or talent or intellect — the belief that those things are scarce makes us compare ourselves to others in terms of how much of those things we have versus what they have.

When we lose this comparison battle, we feel bad, jealous, envious, and less than whole. When we win the comparison battle, we feel a bit of satisfaction mixed with an underlying fear that we may have won this battle, but what if things change and we lose out next time?

The key is to reconnect with your sense of abundance. For example, if you feel like everyone is more beautiful than you, start to look for beauty everywhere, particularly in people whom you might not normally think of as beautiful.

You may find it easier to then see that beauty in yourself.

Action Step: Send Love and Move On

So how do you really stop yourself from comparing yourself to others? Here’s an action step that you can take.

When you notice yourself comparing yourself to someone else, stop yourself, and take a moment to just send them and yourself love.

Just send them love and send yourself some love and move on.

That’s it.

This technique does three important things. First, it stops you from comparing yourself and puts your attention on something else.

Second, it acknowledges an important truth that we are all one and we all need love.

Third, it gives you what you really need, a sense that you are loved and you are okay, no matter how you compare to anyone else.

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