I Forgive


Sue Norton lives in Arkansas City, Kansas. She received terrible news during a phone call from her brother in January 1990. Her much beloved, Daddy, Richard Denny and his wife Virginia were found murdered in their home. Sue’s Daddy was shot to death in his isolated Oklahoma farmhouse. The crime netted the killer $17.00 and an old truck.

Sue says she felt “numb”. She couldn’t understand why someone would want to hurt people who were old and poor.

The loss of her Daddy just broke her heart.

Sue sat through the trial of Robert Knighton (B.K.). She was confused about how she should feel. She tells me that everyone in the courtroom was consumed with hate. They all expected her to feel the same way. But she couldn’t hate the way they did because she says, “it didn’t feel good.”

The last night of the trial she knew there must be another way. She couldn’t eat or sleep that night and prayed to God to help her. When morning came, she had this thought. “Sue, you don’t have to hate B.K., you could forgive him”.

The next day, while the jury was out for deliberation, Sue got permission to visit B.K. through the bars of his holding cell. Sue relates, “I was really frightened. This was my first experience in a jail. B.K. was big and tall; he was shackled and had cold steely eyes.” At first B.K. refused to look at Sue. She asked him to turn around and he answered, “Why would anyone want to talk to me after what I have done?” Sue replied, “I don’t know what to say to you. But I want you to know that I don’t hate you. My grandmother always taught me not to use the word hate. She taught me that we are here to love one another. If you are guilty, I forgive you.

B.K. thought Sue was just playing games. He couldn’t understand how she could forgive him for such a terrible crime. Sue says, “I didn’t think of him as killer, I thought of him as a human being.

People thought that Sue had lost her mind. Friends would step to the other side of the road to avoid her. But Sue says, “There is no way to heal and get over the trauma without forgiveness. You must forgive and forget and get on with your life. That is what Jesus would do.

B.K. resides on death row in Oklahoma. Sue often writes to him and visits occasionally. She feels that B.K. should never leave prison, but she does not want him executed. She has become friends with B.K. and because of her love and friendship he has become a devout Christian.

Sue states that some good has come out of her Daddy’s death.

“I have been able to witness to many people about Jesus and forgiveness and helped others to heal. I have brought B.K. and many other men on death row to our Lord Jesus Christ. I live in peace with my Lord!”

Sue Norton is a member of Murder Victims Families for Reconciliation and the Kansas Coalition to Abolish the Death Penalty. Sue has traveled extensively to speak to schools, churches and community groups about forgiveness and Christianity.

Sue gave an eloquent speech to the parole board pleading to save B.K.’s life.  Many of the parole board members were in tears but voted for death.  B.K. was executed by the state of Oklahoma on May 27, 2003.   Bud Welch from Oklahoma City and Aba Gayle from Oregon were both there to support BK and Sue with their loving energy.



5 thoughts on “I Forgive

  1. We cannot have healing without love, and we can’t have love without forgiveness. It’s the same as this: we can’t have shelter without a home, and we can’t have a home without a foundation.

    Both the love and the healing we give and get from others has to begin with forgiveness and understanding. The love from our Father, the “healing” from our sins, comes from His grace which is born from His forgiveness. He understands our weaknesses and mistakes as human beings…

    I have an ex-wife who can’t forgive my part in our divorce. We both had our part in the failure of our marriage, but she can’t or won’t move on because she refuses to forgive. Now almost 15 years later, this attitude has spread to the two children we have together. They have nothing to do with me either, and it comes from this “Illness” of not being able to forgive…

    For all who may read this comment, please take a lesson. It comes from the Lord Jesus Christ, and not just from me.

    “For if you forgive others for their transgressions, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others, then your Father will not forgive your transgressions.” (Matthew 6:14-15).


    • Dear brother, Steve.
      I am a bit surprised you told about your personal lives. I am so sorry heard the sad fact. Forgive /forgiveness often couldn’t be a difficult thing to do. As the Bible verse that you mentioned said, we have to learn to be able forgive someone just from the little things. My daddy said if we want to able forgive the big thing we have learn from the little thing. And the base of all that is Love, when there is love, there is a forgiveness. Thank you brother for sharing an important lesson to all of us.

      • And thank you for sharing a good thought from your father…if we want to learn to forgive, we must start with the smaller things to learn the concept of forgiveness. Then we can learn to forgive the bigger wrongs…

        And sis, you and I know each other well enough to share more personal things. That’s how friendships grow. You know this from the great friends you already have…


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