Archive | April 17, 2013

Life and Its Legs

So now you have a farm, two houses, and four cars, correct?’ asked Marcelo.

Ivan nodded.

‘Well done!’ Marcelo smiled amicably to his old friend. ‘And what else have you got? A master’s degree from Universidad de Chile, a good and stable job, and what else? Money, ah, how much money have you got? More than a hundred million pesos, I suppose?’

Ivan did not reply, but his smile meant a ‘yes’ to all of the questions.

‘And with all of these in your hands, you’re still the first to arrive at work and the last to leave, yes?’

For the second time, Ivan nodded.

‘For how long?’

‘Three years and a half.’

‘Oh, poor Ivan Espinoza,’ Marcelo sighed.

For a moment he stopped talking. The conversation that previously was filled with laughter and jokes suddenly turned itself into a deep silence. Marcelo gazed over Ivan and tapped his right shoulder tenderly. An air of confidence was transpired from the light of his eyes, despite his graying eyebrow. ‘My friend, did you see that table?’

‘Yes,’ Ivan glanced to a table next to them.

‘How many legs?’

‘Four’

‘If you break one of the table’s legs, will you have a balanced table?’

‘No’

‘So is life. It’s got four legs: education, money, a job you love, and a family you adore. If you break one of life’s legs, you will have an imbalanced life,’ remarked Marcelo.

Sighing, the man paused for a little while before continuing. ‘Now you have a good job, money, and proper education, but you don’t see your children except when they are asleep before and after work. Is that a balanced life? You work for your family, don’t you?’

‘Yes.’

‘So why do you work so hard but spend less time with them?’

Written by Subhan Zein

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How to succeed under pressure

Excelling under pressure is one of life’s most difficult challenges. The reason is that so much of doing your best in any particular situation relates to your mental attitude at the very moment that particular situation arises. In other words, in a pressure situation, if you honestly think you can, you probably can and if you truly do not think you can, you probably won’t. The other factors are preparation, ability and just knowing the enemy or the competition.

#1 – Mental attitude – We tend to perform at our best when we are calm, relaxed and excited and driven by strong belief. The problem with pressure situations is that they are apt to produce the opposite tendencies in our minds and hearts. We become negatively excited, stressed and doubtful – neurological impulses which tend to undermine our skills and abilities. Thus, the secret is a form of self-hypnosis which allows you to block these undermining impulses at the key moment in the pressure situation. You can only block negative, stressful or undermining thoughts by replacing them with their opposite. You must have a hypnotic phrase which you employ in pressure situations. That phrase can be something like “I can do this,” I am prepared,” or “I will overcome.” One of the above phrases (or another similar to them) is to be mentally repeated throughout the pressure situation in order to block undermining thoughts from emerging.

#2 – Preparation – Pressure situations can be predicted and prepared for. Football teams do it all the time. That’s right, think about possible pressure situations which may confront you and practice how you would overcome them. Think about what you would do and how you would do it if a particular pressure situation was to arise. The military refers to this as having contingency plans.

#3 – Ability – Ability comes from experience or stated another way practice, practice, practice. Be good at what your do. Master your craft. In a world where most people do just enough to get by, mastering your craft will make you superior – among the top five percent of the population.

#4 – Know the enemy (competition or opposing factors) – There are few things better in life than knowing and having prepared for the enemy, the competition or the forces which will be opposing you. The words of the ancient Chinese military philosopher Sun Tzu are appropriate here. He said over 2000 years ago: “Most men get into a fight and try to figure the best way to win; but the wise man first figures the best way to win and then gets into the fight.”

You can best prepare for pressure situations by first mastering your craft and then being knowledgeable of the abilities of the forces which will be opposing you. Those opposing forces will not just be the immediate competition but also inertia – old ways of doing things – biases and those who plan to be unfair and those who benefit from the current situation even if that situation is harmful to you and most others.

You must be aware all these forces, prepare for them, stay hard driven by belief or desire and you will perform well in any pressure situation.

Robert N. Taylor

How to deal with pressure and stress

 

Dealing with pressure and stress can be complicated in our lives. Everyone has it, and at times it can get the best of us. Knowing how to handle pressure can help us eliminate stress in our lives. The stress symptoms can be forms of anxiety, along with depression as well. Stress at work, and feeling the pressure from your boss can be difficult examples. Sometimes we put too many expectations on ourselves and we make things more difficult than they need to be. Being able to recollect ourselves can help us manage problems around us better.

Being constantly under pressure to do well can be a burden. You have responsibilities in your life that must be taken can of. You need to change your approach and develop new routines in your life. Also provide different approaches to help solve different solutions. You need to provide less tension in your life, and bring more joy into it. You can do these things, you just have to learn to take charge in your life. When you take charge of things and situations change. You can never expect things to change by themselves.


· 1

 Take a break to recollect your thoughts. Take a timeout and recollect yourself. Whatever it is, you need a vacation from it. Whether that vacation is five minutes, a day, or weeks. Take a vacation and find something peaceful. Keep your mind of things for a while. Find something relaxing that you can enjoy. That can be a song, a cold beer, or a walk on the beach. Whatever you need, find something that can help you regain control of your mind. A peace of mind can change a lot of what you can do. You can’t expect to solve problems when your mind is not at ease. So ease your mind first.

· 2

Try to simplify the problem. To simplify something and help eliminate the stress, evaluate the situation. Look at how you can benefit from the situation at hand by making things easier. Break things into steps and work through the problems slowly. Take a methodical approach and view things at all angles. Sometimes it might take time to let the answers to come to. Sometimes the answers can be staring you right in the face. If it’s a person problem, then put yourself in their position and imagine how they’d want you to react.

· 3

Develop a swagger. Establish your confidence to get things done. Give yourself props for the things you’ve accomplished. Allow personal accomplishment motivate you. Allow failure to do that as well. Consider the pros and let that influence you as well. Peace of find, financial gain, whatever that is there to help you establish the confidence needed. Use the benefits to help motivate you and give you the confidence needed to overcome adversity. Sometimes to establish your swagger you’ll need to learn to have fun again. Don’t take everything so seriously, you’ll learn to relax and get things done more efficiently. Learn to laugh at problems and not let them consume you.

· 4

Take charge of a situation; don’t let a situation take charge of you. Be aggressive and have that attack demeanor in you. Someone that stands up and takes charge of what is happening can control a lot. If you lets problem come to you, rather than stepping up, it can sometimes expand into bigger ones. Then this adds more stress and pressure into your life. Be a go getter and have that mentality. Don’t avoid things; take charge before situations become stressful problems.

· 5

Focus on your strengths and forget your weaknesses. Sometimes when you’re consumed in what you can’t do, it takes away a lot of you. Everyone has weaknesses, so just forget them. Focus on your strengths and the things you do well. Use your strengths and apply them into your daily life. You’ll discover it becomes a lot easier when you use this strategy. It helps deal with your problems easier and more effectively. Apply your people skills when dealing with people. Apple your talents into your strategies.

· 6

Manage your time better. Don’t become so consumed into your problems, otherwise you’re going to feel trapped. Sometimes you need to take a step back, and learn to let things play out as well. You don’t have do everything constantly, it’s not healthy actually. You need breaks along with time to just sit back enjoy the things in your life. You can’t have an obsessive mindset of feeling like everything needs fixed. Your mind will be sharper if you’re not handling too many problems at a time. It will help you deal with situations much better if you learn to take a slower approach, along with a patient one. More importantly your time shouldn’t be consumed into just your problems.

You should not make a habit of creating problems when there aren’t any. A bad habit a lot of people have, when dealing with enough stress in their lives. You’ll learn to overcome pressure effectively and when you apply more happiness in your life. Things that give you passion and love should be applied into your daily life. Sometimes you need to take a break from problems, to have a better attack when dealing with them. Don’t be consumed in things, otherwise you’ll provide yourself with more pressure and stress.

· 7

Ask for help. You don’t have to deal with things all alone. Help is a good thing, a great thing to have. Two minds are better than one anyways. Lean on others when needed and it will help you out in variety of different situations. Whether that is an advice, favors, or just a helpful hand.

Note :  I used this article  as training material for employees at the company where I work. Now I would to share to all blogger. Hopefully it can be useful.